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Single Parent family - Is there any difference?
Shashi Shukla , New Delhi: Apr 27 2009
Made Popular Apr 27 2009
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Single Parent family - Is there any difference?

The single parent family may be defined as one comprising of single parent mother or father having own dependent children. There can be various causes for its establishment as death, divorce, separation, unwed mother, migration for employment and imprisonment. Various studies suggest that one parent families are ineffective in serving the basic family functions. Absence of one parent has a detrimental effect on the growth and development of children.

I did a research on Single Parent Families in 2005. Study will convey different views to different people. They are open to a variety of interpretations. The human drama unfolds and engages our attention. Be it human comedy or tragedy, instinctively we respond. There is poetry and the play of colors black and white, Grey and green, purple, red and silver…we want to see the images, hear the words. We may identify with a character, a sentiment or a significant act. Study aimed to find out the effect of divorce on single parent and the child in the family. No significant difference was found in mother headed single family and father headed single family.

Home is about struggle and survival as is the outside world. There are data and slogans supporting dissolubility of marriage. But there are factors, internal as well as external, working to undermine the stability of marital ties. Such a situation is termed as marital maladjustment or disharmony, which may manifests in several forms, DIVORCE being the one.

The emergence of the industrial era, the assertions of individualism, the passion for freedom and liberty, the change in cultural and social climate not to speak of women’s liberation movement; have all contributed in molding the attitudes of society towards divorce. Divorce since it integrates the family unity is of course a social evil itself but it is better to wreck the unity of the family than to wreck the future happiness of the parties by binding them to a companionship that has become odious.

Insights into the real life: From pain to pleasure

The study tries to unfold realities and insights of the single parent families. Most participants felt they have achieved something valuable-including an understanding of the basics of life. Despite the sheer pain and the lone battling in tough times, the study reveals the sourcing of strength and journey from fear to courage. If and when person speaks, a process of healing has already begun. It is tough to acknowledge grief, abandonment, betrayal, loneliness, anger, rage or frustration—even to oneself.

A person who has moved through this morass and managed to emerge with a new balance and understanding may well want to talk about their journey. Each talking out space while interviewing was very special. There were tears, laughter, trembling voice, the silent moments. There were echoes of bewilderment, chaos, grief and anger. There was retrieval of spirit, a squaring of the shoulders.

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Vinit
Mangalore, India
The market oriented culture is responsible for the present crises in our family system. The men don’t understand the importance of family and want to live an independent life free of responsibilities.
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Shashi Shukla
New Delhi, India
Blaming MEN as the only one responsible for broken families that is not fair on their part..in my study i had both single mothers and fathers who constituted sample of my study so it can be any one man or woman who can desire for independent life free of responsibilities....
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Sanyog
Chennai, India
The word family is itself incomplete without the mother or father. The westernization of Indian culture is totally responsible for the dismantling of Indian family system.
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Shashi Shukla
New Delhi, India
Agreed...But dont you think sometimes under the umbrella of culture we do exploit certain aspects of humanism...we cnt blame culture or westernization for dismantling of Indian family system..
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Sanyog
Chennai, India
Shashi
You mean to say that westernization of Indian culture has no hand in the dismantling of Indian family system, while every one knows the reality that western culture is responsible for degradation in Indian values.
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
The balance that is needed for the development of a child to become a so called normal person can only be done as nature as laid out with a female and male influence and not 10 different combinations as they go through early life
That is true for any countries children
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Shashi Shukla
New Delhi, India
there are no benchmarks to define normal...in any culture for anybody or anything...something that is normal to me can appear abnormal to you,,but yes i agree that both parents play an important role in child’s life for him/her to have a happy childhood.
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Sun
La, United States
both parents play an important role in child’s life only when they themselves are sane. Some people are crazy and in that case it is better for a child to be raised by the other parent
(Global Perspectives)
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Usha
Chennai, India
Today, either a man or a woman is completely capable of bringing up a child, that too extremely well on his or her own. However as the child grows up into an adult its personality can’t be termed as entirely flawless eventhough he/she may be successful careerwise. When a single parent brought up child gets married, there are adjustment problems that are bound to occur, as such a child has seen only a father or a mother and not both.
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Shashi Shukla
New Delhi, India
Are we trying to say that if child comes from single family,marital maladjustment will then be heredity for his/her generations to come...I dont agree !!!!
Actually Usha,it needs to be more explicit..may be i didnt get your point fully.
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We are heading towards total breakdown of institution called family.
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
Arvind
I agree with you, because when we try to justify that a single parent can bring up a child and have the child be a mentally healthy adult we are in big trouble as societies
Nature took thousands of years to have a two part input by different chemistries and emotions of woman and man
(Global Perspectives)
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Julie
New Delhi, India
No i don't think i'll agree with you here........people do have tiffs but i think you are thinking too negatively......there may be some changes seen in the future but to say that families won't exist will be a bit exxagerated
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Ayushi
Calicut, India
According to me people have become less tolerant and are not willing to compromise on their individual independence. This can be a reason of split and hence as a result, the child has to suffer
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they are a lot of thing they need to face and do some work to survive with the title single parents. hope they can be strong to face a lot of challenging the future better with a single parents title.
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Zuliya
Washington, United States
i don't think its a big deal.....here we have lot of people who are single parent and doing a great job........as far as personality of the child is concerned, then people raised by both parents shows negative traits as well.....some to a great extent
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Samantha
Phoenix, United States
u r right zulia and children brought up under parents addicted to drugs/alcohol can be another example having disturbed mindset
(Global Perspectives)
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I have lost wife three years back. She too was doctor as profession, She committed suicide. I have two sons. One will complete his bachelor’s degree in Power Engineering. The younger one is small and is studying in class 8th. I am alone and try to struggle for both of them. I am not at all at peace and suffering from Insomnia. By heart it was a petty reason for doing this with my wife. What shall I so in such situation? Many have suggested me to remarry . But as a faithful husband I wish to die with only one as my beloved wife. Have you come across with such situation in your study? If so please help me too overcome this conflict of my mind. I am too a doctor with postgraduate degree. She was fortunate to have the most possible, from a lavish Banglow . a flat at Mumbai near to where Sachin is going to stay. She had dinner with none other than Lata didi ( Mangeshkar)She had her won reputation. I have not tested any alcohol till date, nor any one can say I have cheated her at any count.I am from a respectable family. Still my in laws visit my home and look after the comfort of me and my sons. Then why I am suffering so.
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Shashi Shukla
New Delhi, India
I feel sorry about your wife..but you seem to be a strong person who is taking care of his sons,,certain problems only time can heal best there is no other way out for this..
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
Abhay
I would like to give my condolences on the lose of your wife
By your touching story i can see and feel the love you had for your wife and the love and pride you express for your boys
The first thing you must not do is project as how you want to lead the rest of your life ,because life unfolds in ways we can’t project or predict
You being a doctor know there will be many that will run and tell you they can help you get rid of this lonely feeling of lose, but time is the only healer and the most important advice of all is talk and more talk ,because talk therapy is the only therapy that will help
You must find people that will listen and not advise ,because you have to get these feelings out of your head over and over again
Alcohol or another woman would only make your situation worse
The reason i didn’t use titles is because the pain of life gives no sympathy to any human no matter what they do in life
If you need to talk to someone i am always here and have been a good listener for many people for their sad or happy events in life
With respect and sorrow for your lose –Wayne
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Dear Sir

Thanks. But the grief will never be forgotten. U am sorry and curse self.
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Wonda L
Earth, Canada
Dr Abhay
The problem with strong emotional events in life is logic can’t help overcome the emotional state of mind because only time can do that
I didn’t mean to suggest you would ever get over the lose of your wife, but in time you would learn how to live again
We have to believe that even the briefest of human connections can heal. Otherwise, life is unbearable.
(Global Perspectives)
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